Five Things

Within the past year and a half, I began to rethink my "must haves" for a potential spouse.  You know what I'm talking about...the mega-list that a girl will make that includes all the qualities of her future spouse.  I'm talking lines and lines of qualities that no man could possibly live up to.  It's idealistic and unreasonable, but when you make it you don't realize how crazy it really is.

So, I slashed burned cursed revised my list.

I really spent a lot of time contemplating and creating this new list.  I tried to make it with attainable goals and only 5 points.  Very important points.  When I finished it, I realized why all my relationships did not work out.  NO ONE (even my ex-fiance) would have gotten a "check" for all five points.  And NO ONE has ever gotten a check for my number five.  Or really, if I am completely honest with myself, NO ONE has gotten a check for my number four as well. 

Yes, I still think number four and five are attainable.  In fact, they are probably two of the most important points.

So, without further ado, I present my "five things."

1.  He makes me happy to the point my friends comment on how happy I am.
2.  He is a Christian and we feel comfortable praying with/for each other.
3.  He is open to having children, if God so desires to bless us with such a gift.
4.  I feel comfortable being my authentic self with him (I trust him).  He likes me because (despite) of my quirks.
5.  The way he treats me reminds me of how my Dad treats my Mom and how my Grandad treated my Gramma.

What do you think of my list?  Do you have things that are "must haves" for a potential future spouse?

floored

It's 2:00 a.m. and I'm still awake.  Why?  Because I was talking online to "outside the box" [otb] guy.  I'm a little floored at how much I like talking to him, how easy it is, and how I'm not worried at all that the conversation will morph into a morally questionable situation.  Unlike tmj-guy, otb-guy seems to be trustworthy in that department.  Yay.  Now, I just have to make sure that I don't run away, make excuses, or flake out like I have in the past.  Encouragement, please!

We've been emailing for about a week, and he asked me what I was doing for Palm Sunday.  At first I thought, wait, is next week Palm Sunday already?  I have completely lost track of time, apparently.  He suggested we go to the Cathedral Basilica St. Louis to meet for the first time on Palm Sunday.  At first I resisted, mainly because he would be driving in from Rolla, MO, just to go to Mass with me.  I mean, that's about a 2 hour drive and a little ridiculous!!  But, he insisted!  How could I say no?  So, I said yes.  I have a Mass-date with otbg on Palm Sunday.

I'm a little nervous.  I mean, I'm not nervous at this point about meeting otbg at this point, which is interesting in itself.  Instead, I'm nervous about Mass.  I tend to experience Mass in a very emotional way, and I'm not sure how he might react to tears (or, let's be honest, sobbing) on a first meeting.  Maybe I could warn him in a gentle way?  I'll have to think/pray about it.  But I think I'm even more nervous about explaining the situation in depth if he asks.  We haven't gone too in depth with faith conversations yet, and I don't want to scare him off with my spiritual gifts.  But then again, if he's freaked out by it, he's not the guy for me. [sigh].

I'm already planning a day trip with him.  He's already invited me to meet his family when they are in town in April.  We seem to be making future plans when we haven't even met yet.  Usually my flight response kicks in right about now...yet I'm not running away.

I'm intrigued.  I wonder what will happen next.